“I hate you!” are words often uttered from a teenagers mouth, usually towards their annoying siblings but more frequently towards you, their even more irritating parent or carer. We have all been teenagers so you would think we would understand how they are feeling but somehow caring for a teen seems to be equally as hard as being one. For many years Care for the Family have produced some excellent resources to support parents and carers navigate family life. Recently they have produced a new Parentalk course specifically for the teenage years which will be run by Rushmere Christian Fellowship in Ipswich during November and December.
“Informal, supportive group … Learnt a lot from each other as well as the course content. Some great tools to help get through the teenage years.”
Course facilitators Michelle and Steve, who both worship at Rushmere Christian Fellowship, have been married for over 20 years and have 3 teenage children aged 19, 17 and 15. Steve has been a secondary school teacher for 10 years and Michelle has worked as a health visitor and teacher of special needs children. They are also involved in youth work at RCF. They feel passionately about supporting other parents to navigate the challenging teenage years and look forward to learning something new as the group shares their successes, and failures, in parenting pre- teens and teens.
“A great chance to realise what you do well, get tips for the other bits and, most of all, share with others. You are not alone!”
Michelle says, “Each evening we will watch a DVD clip from Rob Parsons to generate discussion about issues for teenagers and their carers. The course is very much about peer support with us facilitating the sessions. We have teenagers ourselves but we are certainly not experts. We have found that talking with other parents can enable you to see your situation from a different perspective and help you explore alternative strategies for dealing with common problems. I think one of the key pieces of advice I have taken from Rob Parsons is that sometimes you just have to hang on in there and come out the other side. Your teenager won’t like you all of the time and they cannot always understand the boundaries you put in place to support them, but they will know deep down that you love them unconditionally if you tell them and show them.”
The course suitable for parents, grandparents, carers and those who work with pre-teens and teenagers is being run by Rushmere Christian Fellowship at Colchester Road Baptist Church, Ipswich on 6 consecutive Wednesday evenings starting on 1st November. Please contact Michelle Jones or telephone on 07570 093097 for further information or to sign up.